Hi Guys,

 

For a past few days, I've been a used by my dad as a yelling post. My dad has one of the worst attitudes I have ever encountered in my life. Some of the things he throws at me is when he doesn't have a good day at work, he comes home and his mouth is always like a tsunami of profanity which it hits me first. I tried talking to him about this issue, but it just goes in one ear and out the other ear. I notice it which gets me more and more fustrated. This person doesn't understand that most of the things he is yelling at me are not my fault, that I have feelings too and that I am not just an inatimate object. This has not been the first time but actually, it has been happening to me through out my life. Could my dad be the reason why my life is so miserable? Everytime when this happens to me, of course I cry.. but it give me a better prospective of what my future plans are later in life. I don't know what to do right now. I feel so much pain inside me even if I cry my sorrows away. I think what I need is time away from home. away from somewhere where I enjoy myself, chatting with friends I trust and feeling good at every end of the day. What should I do? Please keep in mind that this is a serious post. Please keep your sarcastic remarks (if you have any) to yourself. Thanks.

i think i know how you feel. my dad gets angry very easily, but he doesnt yell at ME, he usually yells at what hes mad at. if i were you, id tell him to knock the crap off. straight up. tell him if he wants to yell at someone he can yell inside his head because youre his son and he could lose you at any given second. so tell him to cherish what he has while he has it, or he may end up with something he didnt want...like for instance, you live in Toronto, which you told me has great amounts of crime. what if somehow you all of a sudden were mugged or beaten or killed? what would his reaction be then? if youve already told him stuff like this then maybe we can think of some other ideas.

Today, after he yelled at me, he wanted me to go out with him. I told him, I'm not going out with you with an attitude like that.

lol if i had a nickle for every time my mum called me "f**king useless", i could retire easily.

 

i just don't talk to her now lol.

 

kind of a sad thing if you think about it. i realise shes under alot of stress from her work, but she takes it all out on me.

Maybe he just feels alone? Maybe he WANTS to spend some quality time with you, but just doesn't know how to do it..

 

If he is abusing you, call 911. If you love and care for him enough, get him some help.

I don't know if that would be such a good idea . But I understand that if it's necessary, I will do it. But right now, I don't think that it's necessary.

well where did he want you to come with him? how old are you? does he ever take out the anger on your mother, or just you? does he get along with your mom? if he is just simply abusing you and your mother, then call the police.

he wanted to go out to have breakfast with me, i'm 17 years old and no, he never takes his anger out on my mom, just me.

he wanted to go out to have breakfast with me, i'm 17 years old and no, he never takes his anger out on my mom, just me.

dingdingding, that's obviously one way of him trying to get to spend some time with you. he obviously feels like he is a bad father, and he wants to just probably talk with you. obviously he isn't so great at it..

 

I'm surprised that he doesn't fight with your mother.. parents are supposed to do that.. i know mine do.. alot :F.

 

Oh well, I don't know what I'm saying, I'm just a kid. There has to be someone else who can help you on here.

he could be on meds. Im not being sarcastic, hear me out:

 

My dad is normally the most jovial person in the world, but he started having bizarre mood swings complete with yelling and irrational behavior. I found out that something at work had forced him to start taking prozac, and then welbutrin and that his behavior was probably a side effect. He has since stopped taking them or had his dosage switch and there hasnt been a problem

rofl well i hope Medic doesn't walk up to his dad and ask "lol r u taking drugs cuz u r so crazee!". I think you're better off asking your mother.

ignore or talk to a shrink (for him)

 

Is he drunk when he does that?

hm.. he's taking medication for his medical problems. But he doesn't take medication because of his work or work related problems.

Has he always been this way? Maybe he's just got mood swings. Or the meds are affecting him.

He's always been this way for the past 14-15 years. Maybe his medications are getting to him.. I should ask my fp (family physcian).

my dad was the same way... i ignored most of it my entire life. now i sit a month and a half over 18 and i look back, ignoring ti was the best way to do it... no troubles no worries.

youll probably regret that Finner...

why's that, steveo?

because you should love your parents... they do alot for you..and because maybe his dad has learned a lesson....or possibly not. but still you should love and cherish your parents...they were the ones that raised you and that love you more than anyone else. i know i sound emo, but still its the truth, and i always tell the truth, whether or not its good news.

see you guys have it all wrong, if you yell back they dont do ****. trust me, they just dont know how to respond.

I know exactly how you feel medic. I mean exactly. My father used to do everything yours is. Once again I mean everything. Then one time I exploded on him. I started YELLING at him. I told him about everything he has done to me and believe it or not some of the stuff he didn't even remember. Others, for some reason, he couldn't believe I remembered that. Now a days I just usually get lectures from him. He doesn't yell any more. Either way though, everytime he starts to lecture me I feel like I did when I was younger. If your brave enough when he starts yelling at ya. Yell at him back with all ya got. Don't try to talk civil with him. Do exactly what he does to you. Yell at him. Tell him of all the things he has done to you. This isn't to try to make him feel like crap or anything like that. It might be just what it takes to get through to him about what he is doing. Just don't back down.

heh...in the past my dad used to yell and throw crap at me and my bro. i would yell back and start throwing things but never at my dad. sometimes i would be right in his face and say to him if he really wanted to do the things he said he would. after that he would calm down. but now hes pretty calm and if he asks me to do something ill try to do it...it might take me a couple of days to throw out the trash but it gets done

ha, lucky Flip. my dad is bent on getting the garbage out. he cant stand it when i dont get the garbage taken out. i dont mean he gets really angry, but he gets annoyed.

Have him sign up here.

 

Show him this post.

 

Have hime get on ventrilo. No cursing allowed.

 

Tell him I am a Father of 3 and that parents should treat their kids with respect. Not disrespect.

 

Now for the serious stuff.

 

Habits are hard to break. If it becomes more of a problem (physical is the next step) or you cannot stand it any longer. Verbal abuse is still abuse. Talk to your school guidance counselor. (When you get back to school) Tell them it effects you at school. You don't want to go home. It bothers you. Whatever you feel, tell them. They have the resources and knowhow to handle stuff like this. It will be done discreatly and do not worry about your Dad getting locked up. That won't happen unless you do nothing and he gets worse. After the school intevenes. Maybe then he will realize how much of a Smacktard he is being.

 

If any good comes out of it. You will not be like him when you grow up b/c you can see how it effects other people negatively and would not do that to others.

 

If you want to talk about this further. In my 40 years of life and 16.75 years of being a Dad. I have been thru a lot. Just drop me a line.

because you should love your parents... they do alot for you..and because maybe his dad has learned a lesson....or possibly not. but still you should love and cherish your parents...they were the ones that raised you and that love you more than anyone else. i know i sound emo, but still its the truth, and i always tell the truth, whether or not its good news.

how is ignoring your dad yelling at you not loving him?