Not been a great day for me today. Grandmothers got altziemers and parkinsons and shes been in and out of hospital for most of 2006. We put her into a residential home in November because there was no way we could watch her 24/7. Well, this morning we got a call from the home saying we need to go in ASAP. When we got there she was not in a good way. She was asleep, but very restless. We have been told she has a chest infection and it was my job as her attorney and next of kin to decide wether or not to put her in hospital. Was the hardest decision, but I had to choose not to put her in hospital because quality of life is more important than quantity and it's not for sure she would recover from the chest infection. Was there all day until I had to pick the little on up from school. So I decided to take her to see her great grandma one more time to say goodbye. That was the second hardest thing I've had to make in my life. How do you really tell an 8 year old girl that her grandma, who she loves and who loves her back, will not be around after a day or 2? After I finally got through explaining how her grandma was going to go to heaven soon and she will be with her mum and husband and all her pets, I don't think I've ever cried so much as I did today with that little girl in my arms. When we were on the way up to see her I got called by mum saying grandma was put on Valium and would be on Morphine during the night. So when we got to the room I explained that grandma was just sleeping and she will sleep until she took the trip up to heaven. I stayed there for another hour and let Jessica say all her goodbyes and I love yous and it just broke my heart. I just got off the phone about 10 mins ago and shes still alive, but nobody is sure if she will last the night.

 

I thought I'd post this now just incase my actions, or lack thereof, in the next few days is kind of off and because I thought my "family" would like to know :thumbsup: .

 

Now I'm just going to wait for a call for the next hour until I decide to go to bed. I'll keep you all informed if anything happens.

i hope everything pulls through for you donut :thumbsup: its always sad when a member is in trouble

-G

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your grandmother. It's good that you let the little one say goodbye and took the time to explain things to her. Although it won't be easy when she goes, at least she got to say goodbye.

I'm sorry to hear about recent events Donut :thumbsup: My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

Hey Donut, where have you been? Last post was in september, you comin back?

 

Well it's very sad to hear about your grandmother, I wish you the best.

I agree...The quality of life always out weighs the quantity. I cannot describe how much it bothers me to see some people who think different about their loved ones.

 

Best of luck to ya and your family.

 

ribbit!

It's never easy to decide on something like this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You need to be strong as hard as it is to do at this time. WE are all here for you, you know you can always count on us TAC to be there.

so sorry to hear that, you made the right decision though, quality of ones life is far more important than a few extra days. as for the child, the journey of life is hard to understand but for one so young to go through this will help her understand it much better. she will continue to remember the great times with nana for many years to come....

 

take care of you and yours and come back when its right

Donut I don't know you but I am actually on a last minute great grandmother trip myself. Thursday night my wife told me her grandmother wasn't doing well and she was in the fetal position. Friday I went to work and at the end of the day found out my wife's grandmother had passed. We drove down Saturday from OKC and attended the funeral. I also had to explain to my children what was going on so I understand completely.

 

I will say a quick prayer for you and your family. God Bless.

my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. We're here for you if you need it.

You made the right choice. My thoughts go out to you and your family as well and we will always be here for support.

It's never easy to decide on something like this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You need to be strong as hard as it is to do at this time. WE are all here for you, you know you can always count on us TAC to be there.

Donut, I feel for you. My eyes have got to be the most rinsed lately :thumbsup:

 

Good words from TigerHawk. Staying strong is a must, atleast on your outside and how you act and talk. If it feels too hard to do for yourself, remember your other loved ones and caring friends who you don't want to make feel worse also.

 

Reminds me of Thanksgiving. I said that at both my parents funerals. That as sad as we all are about such losses, we must remember why we are sad, that is, the reasons we are thankful for the person lost. Think and talk about the good and funny things they did. Yes, odd as it may seem, in quoting some, I got smiles and laughs at the funeral services. Wouldn't that please the deceased watching this ? I think so.

 

So watch the drinking, as it greatly amplifies whatever one is feeling, be it happy (other times not related) or sorrow and makes difficult staying strong as you must to keep your own esteem and other's.

 

Sincerely,

 

Cam

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. If there's anything we can do please let us know.

My mother had alzimers and cancer, and I saw her during the last days of her life. The loss of my mother was the most hurtful thing I've ever had to endure. I wish the best for your family, and my prayers are with you all.