The gf is great. I love her a bunch. But damn does she not understand what video games are about. She thinks they are just for kids and low-class. I'm 23 and I want to play my damn games!

 

Anyways, we spend a lot of time together and I really don't have any good excuses for getting time alone so I can play BF2142. She can't stand it when I play with her around (even when she's busy doing other stuff) and bothers me too much while I'm playing anyways.

 

So how do I get her to understand that video games are fun, increase creativity, provide an important outlet, and help me stay happy and in a good mood to better provide for her?

 

She's a competitive horseback rider so I tried comparing it to her riding for a few hours a day several days a week (which when I'm on vacation I'm forced to watch which is EXCRUCIATING). She wasn't having any of it though. "Riding is physical, you don't just sit on your ass.......riding is a way of life, gaming is for children, etc.."

 

Anyways, she's 20 and in college. Any advice would be great!

Well, I can tell you this. If she is not the gamin' type she will always have a hard time with it.

 

My wife "hates" the computer and the only true time that I play is when the baby is asleep and she is working or busy. I don't get to spend much time with her anyway so I am ok with this. I do miss the multiple hours that I used to spend playing because I actually got pretty skilled.

 

We have come to a compromise with the gaming because she realizes now that I use it as a form of relaxation and stress relief and that I can do this when family is on downtime. I guess what you should do is set your priorities. It helped me.

 

I am sure that this did not help you much, but its my two cents.

Dont know what to tell you but you could always tell her the average age of the PC gamer is now 35 so she'll have plenty of more years to get on your back about it but do that with atleast a dozen roses in hand...(if you know whats good for you)

Invite her to play with you sometime? =3

 

If you have a console, play that with her. (Halo works great!) I did it and it worked out great.. except now she thinks she "pwns" me 'cause I let her win.

 

Now, I realize that your g/f doesn't like games... mine didn't either... but maybe just try to get her to try 'em when she's actually playing -with- you!

i tell my female that the games were here first !!! kinda .

im lucky my girl kinda understands. tell her that if it wasnt for the game you would go to a city scene and mow people down with a automatic weapon ?

The gf is great. I love her a bunch. But damn does she not understand what video games are about. She thinks they are just for kids and low-class. I'm 23 and I want to play my damn games!

 

Anyways, we spend a lot of time together and I really don't have any good excuses for getting time alone so I can play BF2142. She can't stand it when I play with her around (even when she's busy doing other stuff) and bothers me too much while I'm playing anyways.

 

So how do I get her to understand that video games are fun, increase creativity, provide an important outlet, and help me stay happy and in a good mood to better provide for her?

 

She's a competitive horseback rider so I tried comparing it to her riding for a few hours a day several days a week (which when I'm on vacation I'm forced to watch which is EXCRUCIATING). She wasn't having any of it though. "Riding is physical, you don't just sit on your ass.......riding is a way of life, gaming is for children, etc.."

 

Anyways, she's 20 and in college. Any advice would be great!

Welcome to the rest of your life..

run run for the hills now:eek:

It'll never end,unless you have "the talk" about needed space(you time).

Just let her know that you need some time now and then to just kick back and game with your online bro's,there's not anyting wrong ect.ect.

 

best of luck:cool:

Take a stand brotha! She sounds like the furor not letting you play games even when she is busy!

We have come to a compromise with the gaming because she realizes now that I use it as a form of relaxation and stress relief and that I can do this when family is on downtime. I guess what you should do is set your priorities.

Fortunately, my wife knew this when we started dating. She understood that I was a gamer and accepted that. Before the baby came along, she let me play whenever I wanted for however long I wanted. She knew that I was responsible and I knew when to stop playing. When we got married, her stance didn't change. I spent time with her and then we both got our "me" time. With the baby her, I have to split my time 3 ways instead of 2. There was a little friction at first during the baby's first month but we worked it out.

 

I'd go with Di's approach. Tell her that she uses riding as her form of entertainment, you use gaming. Everyone has their own ways to relax and they aren't always the same. If she tries to pull that bull about not understanding, it's for kids, etc, then tell her that if she truly does love you then she'll let you have your relaxation time and let you use it however you want. It doesn't matter if she doesn't understand it, she doesn't have to. She just needs to accept that it's part of who you are.

 

If she doesn't accept that you have your own way of relaxing, then let her go. It's not worth arguing about. If you plan on getting married, then you need to find someone that is willing to accept who you are and what you do for fun. That's what I did and it's worked out great so far.

 

This is actually all GREAT advice; especially about how riding is how she relaxes and gaming is how I relax. She doesn't mind if I play alone, I'm just not alone that much these days.

 

Interestingly, she's not a gaming girl at all but she's OBSESSED with my Wii. She's incredible at Wii Tennis and would call me all day asking if she could go over and play. It really was a bunch of fun.

Welcome to the rest of your life..

Listen to this man.

 

Anyway, I have similar problems although I play a lot and she doesn't mind most of the time. The thing that frustrates me is when I am playing and she sticks her head in the room about every 3 minutes telling me some story that lasts for 10 minutes and I could actually realate the same story in 2 minutes. That gets to me because an hour later I'll quit playing and she'll think I had a good escape but in reality it was just like sitting on the couch watching t.v. LOL.

 

On a side note, don't they always walk into the room just as you're about to do something great and sidetrack you and you end up dying 5 times in a row instead?

If you were mowing, fixing the car, renovating the bathroom. I am sure she would not bother you. Explain this to her carefully.

 

Otherwise. Never game around her. It will only cause trouble and make the realtionship bitter.

Remember the movie Saving Silverman....you guys will get married and you will change your last name to hers

OMG, my wife would love to add to this thread!

 

After three years of marriage I believe my wife has finally accepted the fact that I am a gamer and a computer hobbiest! And its been rough at times but there are characterists that I've had to accept about her; its all fair.

 

She doesn't even care about my gaming, she'll walk in and bump my chair or gaming hand to give me a kiss or something, HOW sinister (LOL), or ask me something and then I DIE and she laughs and smiles. If you kill me, more than likely I'm talking to my wife or she wants a little entertainment.

 

Gaming is just for relaxation and FUN and I like to put a fair share in. I do all my responsibilities and spend time with her, make sure its QUALITY time and not quantity as it makes a huge difference.

 

But as long as I keep quiet, help her when I need to, its all cool.

 

But take note, don't "stand your ground", compromise with her so that you can play and she can get what she wants; keeps everyone happy.

Jpenn is right. Don't stop gaming just let her know that thats what you do eventually she may need to use your computer or need some assistance with her pc then she may start to get it.

This is actually all GREAT advice; especially about how riding is how she relaxes and gaming is how I relax. She doesn't mind if I play alone, I'm just not alone that much these days.

 

Interestingly, she's not a gaming girl at all but she's OBSESSED with my Wii. She's incredible at Wii Tennis and would call me all day asking if she could go over and play. It really was a bunch of fun.

Definitely play with her, then! Just incorporate "us time" into gaming time occasionally. I'm certain she'll be at least a bit more accepting of your gaming.

 

The problem is: When a lot of people game, it's just them and the game. That leaves anyone else around them pretty much out of it. In this case, your girlfriend.

 

Just be certain to pay attention to her AND play, perhaps combine the two. Yes, even if this means taking a break to Wii with her. =x

I would just get a new girlfriend!!!!!!!

I must be the luckiest guy on earth. Not only does my wife let me play every night (of course I must balance this with dad time as that is my biggest priority), but I converted my wife to be a gamer too. She plays everquest 2 more than I do! Good luck brother!

Sounds like she needs to goooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. :D:DJK

The best thing is to find someone who is a gamer like yourself. I'm a female gamer all my life so I enjoy playing games. And yes if you have a console Halo is the best game to get anyone started on. I love Halo & Halo 2 I'm looking forward to Halo 3.

 

Maybe she's just afraid to play because she doesn't know how, just teach her the controls. So she likes the Wii well then that's good, work on that to get her hooked in and before long she'll want to try other games. Just let her win a few times to help build her confidence into gaming. Anyone can become a gamer, maybe try and find a game that relates to her passion horseback riding. And look what I found Riding Academy: Jump & Ride for the PC. Here is some more info There you go get her this game to play on your PC and I'm sure this will get her hooked into gaming

i just tell her that it keeps me from shooting real j/k my shrink told her that while i game it lets me do what i miss from the Army and that it helps in some theriputic way or something like that so best advice go see a VA shrink and they will help now my wife dont yell or any of that no j/k it works

But take note, don't "stand your ground", compromise with her so that you can play and she can get what she wants; keeps everyone happy.

Dead on; don't give ultimatums -- That's very, very risky.

 

And yes if you have a console Halo is the best game to get anyone started on. I love Halo & Halo 2 I'm looking forward to Halo 3.

That's what my g/f played and she adores the idea of me playing with her. = =

Halo 2 made me motion sick, I couldn't play it.

Halo 2 made me motion sick, I couldn't play it.

Acecombat 04 did the same with me when I sat about 3 feet from the widescreen TV I was playing on. I came back a few days later, playing for short periods of time ('cause I love the game), and basically disposed of the sickness through exposure. Might work for you too, if you're interested in H2.

That's what my g/f played and she adores the idea of me playing with her. = =

That's awesome

 

Halo 2 made me motion sick, I couldn't play it.

My friend and I played Halo and Halo 2 straight through an entire day and I didn't get motion sickness. Man it was a great time. I love the Flying machine aka the banshee. It's an inside joke with my friends.

Married 5 years. My wife wasn't a gamer at first, but she does now. She loves Zuma Deluxe (her scores are scary, she kicks my ass at that game), MMORPG's, and occasionally dungeon crawls. She has an interest in shooters, but is too polite to subject her "noobishness" to her teammates. I try to explain to her that everybody is new at one time, but she's so darn considerate of other players, she can't bring herself to feel that she's letting her teammates down.

 

The key to it all is compromise. I know I play more than I should ALOT, so I try to keep away from the attention intensive games that don't pause when she's around. If I'm playing when she's awake, I try to stick to something I can pause at a moment's notice so I can get up and help with the kids as I'm needed or just so I can occasionally "pounce" on her with affection to let her know I'm still thinking of her.

 

Problem is, women have this "need" to "improve" what they like. If she's feels what you are doing is childish and is trying to improve you by getting you away from it, she does it because she loves you. If she didn't love you, she wouldn't care and wouldn't want your attention and to improve you. Problem is, we men tend to take it as "changing ourselves" and we don't like that as we like to be "accepted for what we are".

 

Compromise is your best bet. Try to do things she enjoys with her, and gently try to get her to recipicate by playing some with you. You got her on the tennis game, so you're foot is in the door.

 

I got a gut feeling it will all work out, just be patient and calm with her. And above everything, don't lose your temper or raise your voice about it (one of my biggest failings). Eventually, she'll come around.

 

Point out to her that Gator is 50 years old and still plays, and he is definatly NOT CHILDISH. LOL